Thursday, December 20, 2012

Blue Christmas....


I have a dear friend who is going through hell. I have to just vent for a minute. Last night the daughter of this dear friend came home in a meth induced psychosis and tried to kill herself and her mother. Cops were called. The daughter was screaming like a person possessed of the devil and saying the most hateful things to her mother. Her mother tried to get her committed to a mental hospital.

She was taken into custody, but at 2am the mental health facility called the mom and said they were releasing her. They said she had "calmed down" and they could not keep her unless she was willing to stay voluntarily, which she was not.
Mom went and got her. Because if she didn't, they were going to release her to a homeless shelter. Mom couldn't stand the thought of that.

I am just sick at heart over this whole thing because I am best friends with the mom, and I used to be friends with the daughter until I found out she got addicted to meth and let her life go all to hell.

I am just sick at heart for my friend. Besides this, she has had a death in the family this week. She is having work problems. She is having other personal problems. I really worry about her. She looks like a broken spirit. And she can't stop crying. Even at work.
I pray she finds the strength to deal with all this.

1 comment:

Pat said...

A really good friend of mine had a similar problem with her daughter. The daughter also had 2 kids. She moved on to black tar heroin and stole things from her mother's house to pay for her addiction.

Mom couldn't stand the thought of her daughter in a shelter or anything else like that but finally one day decided that she had to love her daughter enough to stop enabling her. She stopped giving her money, stopped taking her in when she got evicted from her apartment (which was apparently quite frequently since the girl never paid rent). She stopped everything, and had to insulate herself emotionally.

It didn't have a good ending -- her daughter was found dead from a heroin overdose.

Your friend has a long, long road ahead. But one of the first things she needs to do is stop enabling her daughter -- if she has to go to a shelter, so be it. She CANNOT assume any blame or guilt for the situation her daughter chooses to be in.

And she needs her friends' love and support.